Talk to yourself

I wonder how a word Mentor gives immense belief and relaxation to a person during stressful situation. We tend to incline to a person for emotional balance, career growth, personal and professional growth and sometimes it is without any cause. The relation built between two people to satisfy the urge of being mentally relaxed has led to the relationship of Mentor and Mentee.

It leads to a question. Is it our inability of handling our own situation that we need mentors in our life? Or is it that we start considering a person a mentor when he/ she is the only one to hear our problems. Are we not trying to find a shoulder in our bad times, who can give support and can listen to us without judging.? Does it happen with you? During discussion with many of my friends I have come across a general statement ” Thank God you are there to listen, you are like a mentor to me”. Are we not diluting the real meaning of the word  “Mentor” and making it more resembling to a “Good Listener”.

The reason for this paradigm shift of a ‘Being Mentor’ to a ‘ Good listener’ is that we have stopped enjoying our own company. We have stopped celebrating ‘Aloneness’. Aloneness can help you to find yourself which walking or following a crowd can never happen..

A Mentor is like an anchor of your Life. Give it a deep thought and figure out who is the real anchor of your life. Lastly I would like to quote Swami Vivekananda’s thoughts ” Talk to yourself once in a day…otherwise you may miss meeting an excellent person in this world”

Be a Mentor to yourself and start enjoying your company.. start listening your thoughts and be true to your feelings. Gradually you will figure out the real anchor of your life and will understand all good listeners are not mentors. Embrace your qualities of Mentor- A mentor is embedded with six qualities and they are

M- Mother Leadership

E- Empathy

N- Nurturing

T- Trustworthy

O- Optimistic

R- Realistic

You may not get mentor everytime but there is one unique person who always wants to talk to you, that’s your ‘SELF’… Be YOU.