Relationship- Why is it required

I have recently read a post on Facebook ‘ Many people redeem relationship because they can be used as and when required’. You may laugh on it but actually this has become the irony and it is taking the shape of reality.

What is relationship? It is the way in which two people are connected, i.e. either by blood, or by behavior or thoughts. The relationship between two beings is humanity which in today’s business world is known as Interpersonal Relationship.

It has given such an importance that people are using it as a new technique of being opportunist. Being opportunist is not bad, but making relations just on the basis of getting opportunities clearly states the materialistic reason for making relations and then encashment of the relations. People become materialistic when “You start loving things and using people for your benefit; instead of using things and loving people”.

inspirational-buddha-quotes-and-famous-zen-sayings-images-page-1-relationship-zen-quotesIt is often taught faithfulness is the best relationship one can have. But…is it happening? Do we actually rely ourselves? We suspects ourselves, how can we rely others ? This feeling of non belief, distrust and unfaithfulness has lead to  the thought of ‘why do we need relationship’  We are not satisfied in anything and the reason is we do not believe anyone not even ourselves. We try to find a support everywhere, in the form of friend, a mentor a guide, but do we really have faith on them. Is the samarpan there….

You must be thinking how easy it is to write samarpan.. but so tough to practice. Its easy to preach than to to practice. I will share your load. Here are some steps which can be done for self realization. It is important for self realization before entering into any relationship.

  • What makes you feel comfortable?
  • What makes you feel jealous?
  • What makes you feel happy?
  • What makes you sad?


What do employees want most?

In this competitive era the volatile environment has brought widespread economic growth and social changes. Employees have become more vigilant toward’s the kind of experience they are gaining from the work they pursue. They are preferring experience over career. This is a big reason to understand what do employees really want.

Reducing Attrition percentage is a very big challenge in-front of companies. Companies are taking a lot of measures to keep their employees motivated. Lucrative salaries, Onsite visits, Fringe benefits and perks are some of the areas where companies are working upon since decades. A survey was conducted in 2016 which said that in the services space, 19.3 per cent was the overall attrition. Despite so many efforts the attrition prevails, why… Is it only salary, rewards and recognition, progress and opportunities or something else too which an employee want.

Questions which needs to be answered by HR of the company

1.What do employees want?

2.Why Employee Engagement is necessary?

a.When is it required?

b. How it should be executed?

The most important thing which an employee wants is TRUST- They want to trust you …and to be trusted!

Trust is a function of two things: Character – which includes integrity, motive, and intent and Competence – which includes capabilities, skills, results, and track record

Words, action and courtesy matters…. Trust can be achieved only when Leadership team or the top management, imbibes the characteristic of ‘Mother Leadership’…The way mother trusts her child and is always supportive, the leader should trust the employee.

Stress Friction: change the momentum of life

Stress is a term that is commonly used today but has become increasingly difficult to define. With organisms as complex as humans, stress can take on entirely concrete or abstract meanings with highly subjective qualities, satisfying definitions of both cause and effect in ways that can be both tangible and intangible.

Corporate are running stress reducing exercises, campaign and workshops, through organizing team outings, movies, lunch, dinners, cricket matches, fashion shows, festival celebrations, various competitions etc. But are they able to nullify the effects of stress due to work, time lines, bossism, dogma’s of the corporate etc. No, and it can be clearly seen through the rise in the attrition rate, hip- hopping of employees from one organization to other and large number of people inclining towards these spiritual organizations. These days, these spiritual organizations are playing a vital role in the corporate, by conducting various courses of meditation and stress burst-outs.

Stress is the inseparable part of the organization. It will remain, but the challenge is to channelize the stress energy into positive energy. Eliminating stress means, getting rid of responsibilities. Stress is like a friction force. Friction is must to change the momentum of the body as and when required by the conditions, therefore stress energy is must but it need to be channelized in the positive direction.

There are some tips to do it:

1- Be calm- let the dirt settle first in water and then clear water will be available

2- Analyze your thoughts

3- Don’t try to become what you are…be natural

4- Reward yourself- Always try to acknowledge for every accomplishment be it small or big what you did

These are the natural things to be done when in stress. Just imagine a kid in you. Imagine the way kids express their emotions. It is so easy for them to express, but why is it tough for us.

Mala Kapadia (2004) contrasts between optimum utilization of resources in the business and the under utilization of our own potential. In her book “Emotional Intelligence- Workbook for beginners” she states that when we are free of anger, frustration, habitual patterns of reacting and defending self-perception, intuitive answers begin to arise and one is able to organize the mind’s energy.

Stress is like a friction force. Try to enjoy your ‘ Me time’. Do something which you wanted to do for long. Its not always important to take tough decisions when you are stressed. You can enjoy your own moods and rejuvenate yourself. You may get time to find the real self…


Corporate world- A world of fulfilling desires or a mirage!

Corporate world is a world of fulfilling desires, making relationships, networking and rationality. But as it is rightly said “All that Glitter is not Gold” (William Shakespeare). Stress is prevailing and sustainably developing in corporate world. People are running towards stress management institute but is it working? Is it giving them relief? No it is not giving relief. Their stress is cured partially but not fully.

When employees are disturbed internally it effects environment too. Employees have become emotional labor now. The moment they enter into the workplace they wear a mask as required by their job. They behave in a different way just because their job demands so.  Person- Work conflict in mechanistic organizations occur when people can fit into the systems where as Person- Work conflict in spiritual organizations occurs when systems can not be fit into the person. In either case if Person- Work conflict is too great then the person has to leave the organization and seek a mechanistic organization in which one can do the work or seek a spiritual organization in which one can express one’s core values. The expression of one’s core values within work is the way in which one sees ‘meaning’ and ‘purpose’ in work. When one experiences an alignment of the organization with one’s core values, one’s calling and one’s work and one finds joy and peace. Deming (2000) poisted that all anyone really wants is to have joy in work.

“Conflict is a war which evokes anxiety”. Anxiety leads to irresistible feelings which need to be simplified! It is a form of competition between perceived or actual incompatible needs, goals, desires, ideas, or resources (collectively called interests, the “desired state”)

A struggle for power causes conflict.(Erik A. Fisher, Steven W. Sharp ,The art of managing everyday conflict: understanding emotions and power … ,p2)

Conflicts result from differences in interests and values. One party perceives that another party has negatively affected or is about to negatively affect something the first party cares about.

Conflict exists whenever incompatible activities occur (Deutsch, 1973). Conflicts occur at all levels of interaction – at work, among friends, within families and between relationship partners. When conflict occurs, the relationship may be weakened or strengthened. Thus, conflict is a critical event in the course of a relationship. Conflict can cause resentment, hostility and perhaps the ending of the relationship. If it is handled well, however, conflict can be productive – leading to deeper understanding, mutual respect and closeness. Whether a relationship is healthy or unhealthy depends not so much on the number of conflicts between participants, but on how the conflicts are resolved. (Donna Bellafiore; Interpersonal Conflict and Effective Communication; 1998)

There are many common ways to handle conflict like power based, rights or entitlement based, interest based, relation based approaches and the most common integrative approach i.e. Win Win situation etc. These are the operational dimensions of handling conflict at workplace.

For conflict resolution operational dimension is used but for conflict dissolution spiritual dimension is required, which implies


(IQ= Intelligence Quotient

EQ= Emotional Quotient

SQ= Spiritual Quotient)

i.e. Capability of doing work+ Will of doing work = Purpose of work

and if IQ+EQ= SQ i.e. there is a mismatch of capability and will of doing work then purpose of the work will not be a beneficiary for the organization. Henceforth conflict arises at workplace

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I have created this blog, to share my ideas and my vision for a new way of thinking and its discussion for consciousness learning. It will be a great platform to discuss about the issues and a spiritual perspective to understand and resolve the problems.